Why do American women search for "equality" in a marriage?

No marriage is equal. The whole point is to bring your own strengths to the table. Each of us has specific chores that we do. He takes out the garbage. I can do it, but he usually volunteers or I ask him to. I wash the pots and pans. He doesn't ask, but I like to cook without left over bits of egg on the pan. We didn't sit down at the beginning and say "you will do this and I will do this". We just came to the conclusion over the years. I can be fully dressed and he will get dressed to go to the corner store for cat food in the middle of the night, because I forgot to get it when I left work. That is the 'man' in him telling me that I am special and cared for, and that he doesn't want me to get hurt by being out late at night. I make sure he has clean underwear and a good meal, because that is the 'woman' in me telling him that I will take care of him and his needs. We take care of each other in our own special ways.